Mid-Am Crisis ft. Ed Bates(Gramps) – My Grandfather and former Club Professional at Havana Golf & Country Club

Gramps tees off for his weekly game at Havana Golf & Country Club

Mid-Am Crisis is a weekly podcast featuring intimate discussions with some of golf’s most interesting personas. The show is available anywhere podcasts are found.

My Grandfather, Ed Bates, is my golf hero. He taught me the game and has shaped so much about how I strive to live my life. His easy-going disposition and constant optimism have always been something I aspire to. Gramps, as I call him, was the club professional at the nine-hole course I grew up at. He worked behind the counter there for 35 years and touched a lot of lives along the way. For him, golf has always been a foundation for building friendships and a vessel on the journey towards self-improvement. I don’t think I’ve ever known anyone who loves the game as much as he does…and that’s saying something.  

We recorded this episode on the eve of Gramps’ 87th birthday. Amazingly, even at his impressive age, he still plays golf four days per week. On most of those occasions, he still beats his age. There aren’t many folks who spend every day at the place they worked for three decades but for Gramps the golf course is just home. He once told me that the secret to life was “a hard day’s work, a loving wife, and a happy child.” Golf was how he made that his reality.

During our discussion, we talked about how that all came to be. In addition to Gramps’ life story and golf legend, we also talked about some of the ways he’s taught the game to people. In those moments, he shares what I believe are some of the best lessons any golfer can learn. He’s a wise old sage and someday when we run out of chats like this I know I’ll be coming back to listen to this again and learn from him once more.  

Gramps, if you read this or ever listen to the show, please know that I love you dearly and can never thank you enough for giving me the gift of golf. The best I can do is share the game with others and try to spread the ideals that you taught me.  

For those who want to read more about Gramps, check out the story I wrote about him for Golf.com at the link below. https://golf.com/news/features/good-golf-monotonous-story-about-gramps-ed-bates/ 

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Cheers,

-J

A Game of Misses

The golf swing is a pretty complex operation. Hitting a great shot is not an easy thing to do. Most swings will result in a miss-hit and managing those results is a key determinant for scoring. Ever since I was a boy, my Grandfather has told me that golf is a game of misses. He taught me to think in terms of where to miss best and insisted I learn the art of recovery. Both of which have shaped the way I play the game. Thanks to Gramps, I’ve developed a knack for thinking my way around a golf course and finding inventive ways to make par. Appreciating the frequency of misses is also important for keeping a level head. A miss is nothing to be mad about. It’s just a situation to deal with. Frustration will only compound the problem. A better approach is to anticipate the misses and be prepared to overcome them. It starts by playing better odds and missing in the right place as much as possible. Par is often found through the path of least resistance. As Gramps might say, “a good miss can help you get where you want to go.”


If you enjoy these musings, you’ll probably like my new book, The Nine Virtues of Golf. It debuted earlier this year as the #1 new release golf book on Amazon.

-J

A Good Vice to Get Hooked On

There’s a lot to love about golf. Of all the vices available to get hooked on, it must be the best. The fact that this game can be played at virtually any age makes it particularly compelling. Every time I tee it up with my grandfather I’m reminded of this. Even at his ripe old age, he still exudes a passion for the game. It’s so clearly a major part of who he is that it is impossible to separate the man from the golfer. His love for golf is ever present and that’s a good thing to be known for. Building a life in golf is a great aspiration and Gramps has shown me the blueprint for how to do it. Because golf can be enjoyed at every stage of life, our relationship with it evolves as we age. That’s why golf can be whatever we need it to be. When Gramps was young golf was a competition, when he was building a family it became a job, after retirement it was a way to be with grand-kids and now as he enjoys his days of leisure golf is a pastime. It’s a game that never stops giving. There’s nothing else quite like it and someday I hope I can look back upon my golf experiences and appreciate just how much I got from them. I see that in Gramps and he inspires me to do the same.


If you enjoy these daily stories, you might like my new book, The Nine Virtues of Golf. It debuted earlier this Summer as the #1 new release golf book on Amazon.

-J